Would You Pay Someone to Hack You?
For most of us, the contents of our bank account being stolen is one of the worst situations imaginable. But for some, losing complete control of their finances is a thrill.
Known as ‘Findom’ or ‘financial domination’, predominantly men get mainly women to empty their bank accounts, however they please. The form of BDSM is becoming more mainstream, due to the ease of getting into it and having control over the ultimate power play; money.
Semi-clothed women appear to be the usual Domme, but there are others. A quick search on Twitter led me down a strange path of explicit images, a lot of feet, and thousands of tweets asking for new submissives to come forward, with their wallets. While many of the Dommes with larger gatherings have sensibly hidden their location, a lot of the smaller profiles appear to be in Philadelphia and the surrounding area.
According to an interview in The Lexington Line, the Findom community began in 2008 and has slowly become more popular, and I imagine more so since lockdown began in 2020.
Giving the Domme access to their bank information or just letting them take over their computer, the Sub, also known as a cash slave or pay pig, watches as their money disappears from their account.
During an interview with Buzzfeed, one woman who’s cashing in on Findom said;
“With one click of a mouse you can access emails, photos, bank accounts, PayPal. They are literally just watching as you take their money right in front of their eyes, and there’s nothing they can do about it.”
The money can be lucrative, which is surprising as there’s no physical intercourse involved. Maitresse Madeline reportedly received over $45,000 for spending an hour on webcam. Another, Mistress Harley, usually makes up to $10,000 a day and in an interview with Cosmopolitan, she explained the power she has over her Sub, which made her $1.3million in a day.
“I made one of my submissives sell his vacation home for me and direct deposit the proceeds into my bank account.”
However, not all make it ‘big’ and often it’s smaller monetary transactions over a period of time. Some just want their morning coffee or a clothing haul paid for by an anonymous donor.
There are even specific sites dedicated to getting started in the kink. Steamygenie offers up a comprehensive FAQ, explaining the art of Findom and how to go about finding a Sub. It also clarifies the dos and don’ts, and even offers a step-by-step guide on setting up payment methods and how to weed out the timewasters.
It’s not just women who become Dommes. The kink is attracting men too, whose audience is mainly gay men. These are referred to a Cash Masters and they hold the dominant position in the online relationship.
There is also the usual practice of humiliation and consensual blackmail involved in some of these transactions, as with traditional BDSM. However, as with any online payment, there are risks involved. All transactions leave some kind of footprint behind and it takes just one person to dig and find personal information, for the practice to become dangerous.
Reading some of the interviews with the Dommes, I get the feeling a lot of the enjoyment from taking Subs’ money is to do with being a strong, powerful woman with absolute dominance.
“So many women are raised to believe that it’s their job to please a man and that if a man spends money on them, then they owe that man something. But with findom I don’t have to give anything back in return. For me, it’s the ultimate power exchange.” — Mistress Harley in Cosmopolitan.
Findom quickly moved onto Instagram and later TikTok, with the #findom now at over 60 million views on the latter. The community appears to be growing rapidly.
What are your views on Findom? Do you think it’s just a way to extort money, or is it fair game? More importantly, will you be trying it?